the lesson of REGRET
Regret. What is regret? The dictionary definition for regret is :
to feel sorrow or remorse for an act, fault, disappointment etc.
Learning about regret the hard way can be painful. It can make you feel awful and empty inside and can make one wish time travel existed.
During my experience with regret one thing I have learnt is that regret provides short term happiness, not long term happiness. It is important to understand the difference between short term happiness and long term happiness and have the ability to remember this difference. This message for me is still sinking in but I feel like I am finally beginning to understand it.
When you are in the moment you feel the burst of happiness. This burst can often be so strong that it overcomes the part of your brain that is telling you that this is a bad idea and you will regret it later on. Being caught up in the moment is invariable and dangerous.
In my experience being in the moment can make me feel carefree and happy and all the problems that I have been going through are pushed right to the back of my mind. It's very easy to get caught up the moment which also, unfortunately, means that it can be extremely hard to be rational and ensure your long term happiness.
Regret is one emotion that is definitely one of the most painful because there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. Once you feel it there is no way of going back and fixing whatever happened that caused that regret.
This was my experience.
When I was fifteen, my brother and I were preparing for our Spanish GCSE exam. My brother is very hard working and he put in a lot of effort when preparing for the exam. I, however on the other hand, did not put in as much work. Instead, while he worked for the exam, I spent the time watching TV going out with my friends and just lazing about. Essentially I ended up cramming all the effort my brother put in into the 6 hours before the exam itself.
The result of this ended up with my brother scoring and A* in the exam and me scoring a C. The consequence to this was that I had to resit my exam which meant another year of preparation. It also meant that I would end up doing 11 GCSEs all in the same year instead of doing just one first then the next ten in the following year.
This experience was one of my biggest regrets because had I put in the same amount of effort as my brother, my actual GCSE year would not have been as stressful as it was and I would have had a lot more time to focus on my weaker subjects. It also limited the time I was able to spend relaxing and talking and going out with my friends. GCSE year was one of the hardest years I had to go through and I definitely will always regret not putting in that effort my brother put in for our exam. This taught me that the short term happiness just isn't worth it and later on it helped the rational part of my brain to overcome that burst of short term happiness.
If I had put in that effort my life could have been different. However, although I have these regrets, I know that this happened for a reason. I don't know what that reason is and I may never know but there is a reason.
There is no point dwelling on these regrets and I've learnt that after going through these experiences is that you can't change your past but there is still time to change your future. The future isn't set in stone; you can change it, alter it however you want.
I hope this helps and I hope after reading this you can all take something away from it. Thank you for reading.
Class dismissed,
The Girl of Lessons
During my experience with regret one thing I have learnt is that regret provides short term happiness, not long term happiness. It is important to understand the difference between short term happiness and long term happiness and have the ability to remember this difference. This message for me is still sinking in but I feel like I am finally beginning to understand it.
When you are in the moment you feel the burst of happiness. This burst can often be so strong that it overcomes the part of your brain that is telling you that this is a bad idea and you will regret it later on. Being caught up in the moment is invariable and dangerous.
In my experience being in the moment can make me feel carefree and happy and all the problems that I have been going through are pushed right to the back of my mind. It's very easy to get caught up the moment which also, unfortunately, means that it can be extremely hard to be rational and ensure your long term happiness.
Regret is one emotion that is definitely one of the most painful because there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. Once you feel it there is no way of going back and fixing whatever happened that caused that regret.
This was my experience.
When I was fifteen, my brother and I were preparing for our Spanish GCSE exam. My brother is very hard working and he put in a lot of effort when preparing for the exam. I, however on the other hand, did not put in as much work. Instead, while he worked for the exam, I spent the time watching TV going out with my friends and just lazing about. Essentially I ended up cramming all the effort my brother put in into the 6 hours before the exam itself.
The result of this ended up with my brother scoring and A* in the exam and me scoring a C. The consequence to this was that I had to resit my exam which meant another year of preparation. It also meant that I would end up doing 11 GCSEs all in the same year instead of doing just one first then the next ten in the following year.
This experience was one of my biggest regrets because had I put in the same amount of effort as my brother, my actual GCSE year would not have been as stressful as it was and I would have had a lot more time to focus on my weaker subjects. It also limited the time I was able to spend relaxing and talking and going out with my friends. GCSE year was one of the hardest years I had to go through and I definitely will always regret not putting in that effort my brother put in for our exam. This taught me that the short term happiness just isn't worth it and later on it helped the rational part of my brain to overcome that burst of short term happiness.
If I had put in that effort my life could have been different. However, although I have these regrets, I know that this happened for a reason. I don't know what that reason is and I may never know but there is a reason.
There is no point dwelling on these regrets and I've learnt that after going through these experiences is that you can't change your past but there is still time to change your future. The future isn't set in stone; you can change it, alter it however you want.
I hope this helps and I hope after reading this you can all take something away from it. Thank you for reading.
Class dismissed,
The Girl of Lessons
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